How to request a song from a DJ (without annoying them)
The short version: choose a moment when the DJ isn't mid-mix, give the exact title and artist, pick something that suits the room, and say thanks whatever happens. Most DJs don't mind requests. They mind being interrupted, or being asked for something that would empty the floor.
1. Pick the right moment
A DJ lining up a transition has their attention on the decks and the headphones. Hold back until they look up or the next track is settled. If they're clearly busy, wait a minute. Your request won't get any worse.
2. Give the exact title and artist
"That song that goes da-da-da" is hard to work with in a loud room. Have the title and artist ready. It matters more with popular remixes and covers, so mention the version if you care which one you get.
3. Ask for a song that suits the room
A good DJ is reading the whole crowd. A request that fits the current genre and energy has a far better chance than one that would stop the party. Before you ask, listen for a few minutes and ask yourself whether your song could follow what's playing.
4. Ask once, then enjoy your night
Don't hover at the booth, and don't come back every five minutes. The DJ heard you. They might be saving it for the right moment, it might not fit, or they might not have it. A smile and a thank-you go a long way either way.
5. What to do when it's too loud to talk
This is where most requests fall apart. Shouting over a sound system is hard on you and on the DJ, and songs get misheard. Some better options:
- Show it on your phone. Put the title and artist on your screen in the biggest text you can, then hold it up. The DJ reads it in a second, with no shouting and no mishearing.
- Write it down. Paper and a pen still work, if you can find them and the DJ has enough light to read.
- Use the venue's system. Some DJs and venues share a QR code or a request link. If you see one, use that first.
The easiest way to show it on your phone
DJ Song Request Card turns your iPhone into a giant request sign. Search the song, tap it, and the title fills the screen at full brightness. The DJ doesn't need to install or set up anything.
On a laptop? Scan with your iPhone camera.
The app is iPhone only for now.
Requesting a song at a wedding
Wedding DJs usually work from the couple's plan, and some couples ask for a do-not-play list. Keep requests upbeat and suitable for every age in the room. If it's a song for the couple or a family member, say so, because a dedication gives the DJ a reason to fit it in.
Requesting a song at a bar or house party
Smaller rooms are usually more flexible, and many bar DJs welcome requests. They can also hear you more easily between songs, so wait for a gap. At a house party, check whether someone is running the music before you take over the aux.
Should you tip the DJ?
It's never required unless the venue says so, but a tip is a nice thanks for a DJ who played your song. It doesn't buy a guarantee. If a song really doesn't fit, a good DJ may still pass.
What if the DJ says no?
Take it well. They may not have the track, it may not work at this point in the night, or the venue may have rules about what can be played. Thank them and get back to dancing. You can always try a different song later.